The Fine Line

Anyone who knows me knows I think privacy is rapidly dying. Between everyone posting everything to Facebook and Twitter every minute and the fact that nothing is ever really gone from the ‘net, I think anonymity is already dead and total lack of privacy isn’t far behind.

This is why I never put things on the ‘net that I wouldn’t say out loud to people who I barely know. You may think I lay myself bare on here, but I don’t. You may know my real name, the name of my son and my husband and even the city we live in. But you don’t really know me unless you are one of my very closest friends, and those are few and far between. There are lots and lots of things I never blog, Tweet or status about.

This was brought to glaring attention this week when a very well known blogger, who I won’t name here as I am not trying to advertise their blog or their problems, admitted on their blog that their partner had moved out. That their marriage was in trouble.

And I found myself unsurprised. Because their relationship, while I am sure not recorded second by second, was very open on the blog. Their fights. Their issues. Their triumphs and their pains. And yet, they looked to be the perfect couple. Too perfect and I felt there were cracks. Because too much of their relationship was happening on stage.

I rarely talk about my marriage on here. Oh I talk about Simon, sure. But not about our relationship. Not really. Because it’s no one’s business but ours. And our close friends. It certainly isn’t the business of the random people who read this blog.

And that’s the way things will remain. If you don’t want the world to know your business, don’t talk about your business. If you don’t want people to figure out who you are, don’t post on the internet. Ever.

Because nothing is ever gone from the ‘net. And once it’s out there? It’s out there.

I will tell you, however, that Simon and I have strong, stable and loving marriage. Divorce is not an issue. Murder, on the other hand…