why I post at Mumsnet at all.
No matter what you post over there you are either accused of being judgey (as they say) or a troll. Its really annoying.
Granted, I’ve made some friends over there. The 40+ mummies. Some local mums that I just met IRL on Friday.
But for the most part, its full of vitriol and angst and anger. And, yes, people being judgey.
I would hope that a site that The Times called:
“The country’s most popular meeting point for parents”
Would be less judgemental. More supportive.
And at times, it is. There have been many posters who have been in dire need who the people on the site have rallied around.
But those threads are few and far between. If you believe people who have been posting on there since the beginning, it used to be 100% supportive. I, personally, don’t believe them.
So why do I keep posting there? Because its fun, I guess. I get to let my inner bitch out on occasion, knowing that the worst that will happen is I’ll get bored with it and hide the thread. Which I do a lot.
But I also start writing replies a lot and then don’t post them. Because I am not in the mood for being bitched at back.
So I suppose I’ll continue to post there.
But maybe I’ll stick to the 40+ and the local thread.
For my blood pressure, if nothing else.
Based on what I just read on Mumsnet I think sticking to the “over 40” group and the local group is a REALLY good idea. I guess in some ways since most of you only know one another thru the internet there is a certain allowable anonymity that allows a lot of the women to have bad manners:) And yes I’m being sarcastic and ironic. For women, most of whom won’t tolerate bad manners, they are not very well behaved.
Luv u
It seems like judgment and trolling is the default for posting behavior. I’ve never completely understood why, but probably has to do with people needing to hold their tongues in their day to day interactions, so they let loose in an impersonal format. One person makes an innocent comment and the next thing they’re being abused as an idiot. It doesn’t help and there’s no good reason to take on the attitudes you’ve described. It brings everything down and doesn’t help reach a solution. It’s frustrating to think you’ve found an online home and then see it deteriorate into the lowest form of discourse. It’s one of the reasons I usually read but don’t post much anywhere.